New Year’s Resolution

My blogging buddy Kunal of random rants ruminations ramblings will get a kick out of this:

I had a dream, a couple nights ago, about Priyanka–likely because I saw a news report about Nick Jonas–and the dream included my wife. Don’t get so excited; it’s probably not what you think. We were sitting at a counter, or table, with Bibi on my immediate right, between myself and Priya, and we were joking about how it wasn’t gonna happen with me and the world’s most famous Indian actress. Later on, I think we were all cooking together, probably a combination of Indian dishes and a good ole American hamburger.

On those rare occasions when I recall my dreams involving another woman, it almost always involves conversation and physical contact limited to a friendly hug. Even in my dreams I behave myself. As much as I like to see myself as devoted to my wife, I guess I really am that boring. The best way I can explain my motivation is that each day I try to not be an asshole.

A couple of weeks ago I listened to the recollections of one of my co-workers as he explained the age old phenomenon of the Generation Gap, more specifically how the children of each younger generation think they are smarter and more evolved than their parents. I followed his argument along its well-worn path, “It’s the same as when we were 19, and our parents were assholes, and didn’t know anything…” You all know how the story ends, we grow up, making the same mistakes that our parents tried in vain to warn us against. Realizing the error of our ways, we come to appreciate and seek out their wisdom.

The thing is, sometimes your parents really are assholes. Before my friend could finish his story, my mind raced ahead to this unfortunate conclusion, the reality that our own growth and shift in perception doesn’t instantly imbue our parents with wisdom and virtue. Following this logic, if my parents are assholes, maybe I’m an asshole too.

If I’ve learned anything over the years, it’s that our parents teach us two things, what to do, and what not to do. We are what we do day-to-day. This is probably an oversimplification, but breaking the chain by choosing to not be an asshole is a tangible goal.

So, there you have it–my New Year’s resolution to strive to replace the insufferable asshole with the wise and virtuous individual in the story with the happy ending.

Happy New Year to all of my friends and family!



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  1. The other thing is, sometimes the newer generation really is smarter and more evolved than their parents. I know my high schoolers are doing more complex math and science than I did back in college. And my parents, well, let’s just say that our differences are astonishing. After 43 years, I’m afraid I still don’t agree with or appreciate their so-called wisdom. Does that make me the asshole in this story? Or maybe their wisdom simply doesn’t apply to my reality. Happy New Year!

    1. The mantra from the ’60’s was, “Don’t trust anyone over 30.” As for whether a person is or isn’t an asshole, I’m not referring to anything as esoteric as questioning one’s point of view; the actions of the asshole are more extreme and hurtful.

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